My son wanted to play baseball again this year. The House league is divided into age groups and within age groups, divided into levels B, A and double A. Everyone is invited to play in the B levels. If you are a player with potential, you are free to try out for the A levels. The really great players get to try out for the double letters team.
My son and his best friend went to the A tryouts. My son did not survive the first cut for the A team but his best friend did and continued on with tryouts. When I asked the dear boy how he felt about that, he said, matter-of-factly, "That's okay, Mom. I am still gonna have fun." I was impressed by his attitude which was better than mine. After all, which parent did not want his/her kid making it to the big leagues, right? Society tells us that we must aim to be with the BEST teams, cliques, groups, or we are not worth as much, right?
Two weeks later, we found out his best friend ended up not making the final cut either for the A team and so, both boys landed on the same B team. Well, whaddayaknow.....turns out our head coach (always a parent volunteer) was somebody who's really been around the baseball league, coaching all the way up to the youth elite teams. He's played in all the major league baseball stadiums of America.
Well, three months of summer baseball later, my son has had the best season of his life, learning something new at every practice and trying new positions at every game. What was first a minor embarrassment (for me, not him!) in not being "good enough" to be on the elite team, turned out to be a blessing I did not expect as my son grew in talent and confidence under a watchful and skilled coach.
I need to remember this nugget from the ball park.Society is not always the best of teachers when it comes to the lesson about one's sense of worth. Just because we do not always get what we think is "best", doesn't mean we are devoid of all worth. Sometimes, we don't get the glamour of being on the A teams of life. But oftimes, the B teams of life offer experiences that are just as precious, if we simply open our eyes and hearts....
Sunday, September 21, 2014
Saturday, August 2, 2014
The Case of the Controversial Cookies….
It was December 20th. My neighbour, TZ and I were freezing
our posteriors off, waiting at the corner, one street away, for the school bus,
to take our boys to school for their last day of classes before Christmas
holidays begin for students. The bus arrived, we patted our boys’ backs and
gave final reminders to “be good” as they went up the steps of the bus. As it
drove away, we waved towards the dark, tinted windows of the bus, hoping it was
our kids seeing us wave and not somebody else’s kids thinking, “Who’s the
strange parent waving to me??”
On our quick walk back to our homes this wintery day, our chat was light
as it sometimes is. We talked about our
plans to rest and relax during the Christmas holidays. When we got to her
driveway, TZ said, “Oh wait! I have something for you,”….she ran into her house
while I shivered some more and she came out with gift for me. A plate of
cookies, all wrapped up in Christmas-themed cellophane.
She smiled and said,
“Merry Christmas!! I baked these myself!”
I must have looked shocked because she continued with a smile, “Don’t
worry. The kids say they’re pretty good.”
“You didn’t have to do this,” I said.
“I know,” she responded, “I was baking to make Christmas gifts for the
teachers at school anyway and I thought I would make you a plate too!”
I explained why I seemed shock, “But TZ, in my birth country, Muslims
are now taught not to even wish their non-Muslim friends,"Merry Christmas" or the like, for
fear of weakening their own faith or
giving credence to some other faith. "
TZ wrinkled her eyebrows and huffed impatiently, “I’m a hard-core (Egyptian)
Muslim. I know that Allah can see the intentions of my heart. How can wishing you well and giving you a
plate of Christmas cookies damage my faith?
Aren’t we neighbours? Aren’t our children friends? You welcomed
me to the neighbourhood with a plate of cookies,” and she continued to tsk tsk
away, “People should go demonstrate at your country’s embassy. So many wrong
teaching these days!”
I quickly calmed her down and assured her that no such rally was
needed but gave her a great, big hug and the double-cheeked kiss typical of my
city. As we retreated to the warmth of our homes, I gave thanks that neither I
nor TZ were afraid to reach across the cultural and religious boundaries that
set us apart. I gave thanks that we were determined to treat each other with
respect and be the best representation of what we believe to be the Truth,
despite all the ugliness being committed in the name of religions all over the
world.
And so as I write this, seven months after Christmas, it is Eid
al-Fitr (a.k.a. Hari Raya Aidil Fitri in my birth country) in a few days, the
end of Ramadan for my neighbour. I know
what I will be sending over to her place on that day of celebration. Some
gorgeous cookies from our local halal supermarket together with my well wishes.
For anyone reading this who might disagree with my actions or TZ’s actions,
I suggest we let God do the job of judging, eh? The last I heard, there was no
new job posting for “God”.
As for us humans, why don’t we do the best job possible to represent the “God” of our beliefs – more love, less hate; more compassion, less ill will; more understanding, less ignorance, and more respect with less disdain for our fellow human beings and especially towards those we claim as neighbours and friends. Let’s try that. Not just for a day or week. Let’s commit to that for as long as we shall live. Maybe then, humanity has a chance….
As for us humans, why don’t we do the best job possible to represent the “God” of our beliefs – more love, less hate; more compassion, less ill will; more understanding, less ignorance, and more respect with less disdain for our fellow human beings and especially towards those we claim as neighbours and friends. Let’s try that. Not just for a day or week. Let’s commit to that for as long as we shall live. Maybe then, humanity has a chance….
PS – those homemade cookies from TZ were delicious, especially the
pink-tinged ones with cream cheese and sprinkles on top.
PPS – TZ received my gift with the fiercest hug ever… I thought she
would never let go. I returned the hug, thinking of the unspoken words between
us and of all the sad things happening in our respective “home” countries…. Can
cookies stop the senselessness?
Maybe not on a large scale but there’s this fine Chinese proverb that
says that the journey of a thousand miles begin with a single step. I’m taking
my steps. I wish more of you would join me because the journey feels lonely,
very often….
Friday, July 25, 2014
Lessons learned from a funeral or two...
What a
blogger I am! More months of silence and leave it to a funeral to return me to
my blogsphere. Sigh.
In the last 3
months, I’ve attended two funerals. Where I am, they call these “celebrations
of life” and indeed they are because people come up to microphones and talk
about how amazing these lives where when they had breath. Both were men. I did
not know either one well at all. Despite that confession, I felt compelled to
come and pay my respects.
RP was
his late 80s and RT in his late 40s. The former’s passing was somewhat
understood and expected as he was in his twilight years but the latter’s
passing came as a shock. RT had been paralyzed a couple of months ago after
accidentally hurting himself jumping into his swimming pool at home. Both leave
behind loved ones whose lives are forever changed.
As I sat and
listened to eulogies and watched photo slideshows for both these men, I learned
three things from them and their lives.
The first is
that life is a gift and meant to be lived to the fullest, to the best of our
abilities. Both men were active in their circles at work and at home. Neither
chose to be an island. It is easy to be an island when the world seems like
such a scary place where people do not have the same values as you, or seem not
to have any values at all. That does not mean we should retreat to protect
ourselves and pooh pooh at everything that is not like us. If anything, I
learned that we need to arm ourselves with what we know is true and good and go
out there and shed some light on this dark and often crazy world.
The second
lesson I learned or rather had reaffirmed for me is that I need to make
memories with my family. Although both men were well appreciated at work, I saw
many photos of family times. I saw RT’s girls hugging him tightly on family
vacations. I wistfully wished my girl would do the same to me. I saw RP’s
family surrounding him during birthday celebrations and watched his fashion sense evolve with the
years.:-)
I spend a
lot of energy and time at work. Partly because I excel at my work. Partly
because I get a lot of affirmation at my work. I pour out 110% at work….if you do the math,
that does not leave much at all for home.
And so, I acknowledge that, I err in placing work ahead of family, ahead
of my own children far too often because honestly, at the end of the day, on my
death bed, will my work circle be there? Who was it who said, “Nobody ever
wished on his deathbed that he spent more time at work.”? But, then again, things
are almost always easier said than done, aren’t they?
My third
lesson from RP and RT is to live your best life now and to do it authentically. I don’t mean any new age-y reference,
nor do I mean to spend all your money buying all the toys you want now. From what I saw and heard, both men lived their
lives consistently and humbly, putting the greatest value on human
relationships among each other and one’s relationship with God, the Creator. Neither threw money around like it was water. Neither
shied away from difficult situations. Neither hid their beliefs in a loving
God. Both believed that eternity mattered and because of that belief, both were
courageous in how they stood firm for universal values of kindness and truth
and dignity and how they extended kindness, truth and dignity to all in their
circles. I could tell that, from the group of grown men around me sobbing, at RT’s
celebration of life.
We never
know when our stories are meant to end or how they will end. While we have
breath, perhaps we should evaluate how we would like our stories to be told
when our journey is done. What will be told someday in the future, depends on
what we do now in the present. Do you need to rethink some aspects of your life
today? I do.
Wednesday, January 1, 2014
New Beginnings ...
So I see that my last blogpost was in May 2012. Fabulous blogger I am, hrumph!
I think of all the reasons I did not come here for the last 18 months and honestly, it is too tiring to explain or justify. Therefore, it seems so much simpler to "forgive and forget" and let bygones be bygones and just start anew.
And yet, it is not easier said than done, is it? To forgive and forget? To let bygones be bygones? Especially when we have been wronged? Why shouldn't we hang on to some bitterness? Why not stay angry for a while more? He sure deserves my sour face! She can talk to my hand! They made my life so miserable, why shouldn't I return the favor? Besides, if I forgive, that means they get to keep on their merry way....no, with no lessons learned?
Honestly, I don't know. At this point, I don't really care either. Does it truly matter who was wrong and who was right? Some days, it seems like it does matter. But....
If I choose not to forgive, then I am the one being burdened by my actions. I am the one holding the weight of yesterday. I am the one chained by the lie that happiness is achieved by hitting back.
If I wish to be brutally honest, I will confess that I have hit back, using words, using emotional manipulation etc. Did it feel good? Most of the time, it did not. Perhaps for one second, I felt justified and vindicated for my retaliation, returning bad for bad but I always came away feeling like the part of me that was good was stripped away, just a little, as if I was walking towards the Dark Side of the Force (if I were a Jedi Knight :D)
So, a new year beckons. I will choose to let go of yesterday's crap so I can embrace tomorrow's promise. Edith Lovejoy Pierce has a wonderful quote attributed to her. As a closet writer who hopes to be published someday, I love it.
I hope you see me here more often this new year. May peace be yours as you join me in letting go of old baggage and embracing freedom in new beginnings.
I think of all the reasons I did not come here for the last 18 months and honestly, it is too tiring to explain or justify. Therefore, it seems so much simpler to "forgive and forget" and let bygones be bygones and just start anew.
And yet, it is not easier said than done, is it? To forgive and forget? To let bygones be bygones? Especially when we have been wronged? Why shouldn't we hang on to some bitterness? Why not stay angry for a while more? He sure deserves my sour face! She can talk to my hand! They made my life so miserable, why shouldn't I return the favor? Besides, if I forgive, that means they get to keep on their merry way....no, with no lessons learned?
Honestly, I don't know. At this point, I don't really care either. Does it truly matter who was wrong and who was right? Some days, it seems like it does matter. But....
If I choose not to forgive, then I am the one being burdened by my actions. I am the one holding the weight of yesterday. I am the one chained by the lie that happiness is achieved by hitting back.
If I wish to be brutally honest, I will confess that I have hit back, using words, using emotional manipulation etc. Did it feel good? Most of the time, it did not. Perhaps for one second, I felt justified and vindicated for my retaliation, returning bad for bad but I always came away feeling like the part of me that was good was stripped away, just a little, as if I was walking towards the Dark Side of the Force (if I were a Jedi Knight :D)
So, a new year beckons. I will choose to let go of yesterday's crap so I can embrace tomorrow's promise. Edith Lovejoy Pierce has a wonderful quote attributed to her. As a closet writer who hopes to be published someday, I love it.
I hope you see me here more often this new year. May peace be yours as you join me in letting go of old baggage and embracing freedom in new beginnings.
Tuesday, May 22, 2012
Balance
OMGosh!
Has it truly been a year since I last posted something? Wow! Some kind of a blogger extraordinaire I must be! Sheesh! Where has time gone? What have I done? Where have I been? What have I accomplished? Did I learn anything in the last 15 months? Do I have more white hair than before? Hahahaha! I knew there was a vain streak in me somewhere. How humbling to be reminded I am not yet perfect. :-)
Busy, busy, busy is where I've been. Therein lies my sickness. I really need to figure out what's important in my life. It surely can't be work. It better not be work.
The following piece by a former President and CEO of Coca Cola has often been quoted, perhaps not in its entirety but today, my light bulbs went on when I read the whole message. I'm no Georgia Tech graduate but I feel like this is a message specially written for me. May I do a better job at living a balanced life. If I am successful, you will see me back at blogging. If not......see y'all next year! :-)
****
Imagine life as a game in
which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them - work,
family, health, friends and spirit … and you’re keeping all of these in the
air.
You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls - family, health, friends and spirit - are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for Balance in your life.
How?
Don’t undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. It is because we are different that each of us is special.
Don’t set your goals by what other people deem important. Only you know what is best for you.
Don’t take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling to them as you would your life, for without them, life is meaningless.
Don’t let your life slip through your fingers by living in the past or for the future. By living your life one day at a time, you live all the days of your life.
Don’t give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.
Don’t be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect. It is this fragile thread that binds us to each together.
Don’t be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be pave.
Don’t shut love out of your life by saying it’s impossible to find time. The quickest way to receive love is to give; the fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly; and the best way to keep love is to give it wings!
Don’t run through life so fast that you forget not only where you’ve been, but also where you are going.
Don’t forget, a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.
Don’t be afraid to learn. Knowledge is weightless, a treasure you can always carry easily.
Don’t use time or words carelessly. Neither can be retrieved. Life is not a race, but a journey to be savoured each step of the way…
–Brian G. Dyson
President and CEO, Coca-Cola Enterprises during his speech at the Georgia Tech 172nd Commencement Address Sept. 6, 1991
You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls - family, health, friends and spirit - are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for Balance in your life.
How?
Don’t undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. It is because we are different that each of us is special.
Don’t set your goals by what other people deem important. Only you know what is best for you.
Don’t take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling to them as you would your life, for without them, life is meaningless.
Don’t let your life slip through your fingers by living in the past or for the future. By living your life one day at a time, you live all the days of your life.
Don’t give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.
Don’t be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect. It is this fragile thread that binds us to each together.
Don’t be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be pave.
Don’t shut love out of your life by saying it’s impossible to find time. The quickest way to receive love is to give; the fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly; and the best way to keep love is to give it wings!
Don’t run through life so fast that you forget not only where you’ve been, but also where you are going.
Don’t forget, a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.
Don’t be afraid to learn. Knowledge is weightless, a treasure you can always carry easily.
Don’t use time or words carelessly. Neither can be retrieved. Life is not a race, but a journey to be savoured each step of the way…
–Brian G. Dyson
President and CEO, Coca-Cola Enterprises during his speech at the Georgia Tech 172nd Commencement Address Sept. 6, 1991
Tuesday, March 1, 2011
The Business of Bridge-Building
Recently a few links to news pages back in the land where I was born brought much sadness to me… many showed me proof that the place I still refer to as “home”, is no longer the multicultural oasis I had the privilege of growing up in. So-called learned people throw divisive darts at peace and harmony. Supposed scholars pound the wedge called racism into what now seems a chasm among people of all races who call Malaysia their homeland, “tanahair”, a Malay word that always gets me teary-eyed. Many politicians encourage the divide, contributing to more tears.
I read recently, this marvelous quote, “Speak the truth, even when your voice shakes.” I am about to do so in the first of a series of blogposts… speak the truth … even though my voice is shaking as I speak. Why? It is because I have friends on both sides of the chasm. Friends I love dearly. Friends I consider family, no matter their race, language or faith. And by speaking, I will most likely cause discomfort or pain.
My voice shakes for fear of offending those I love. And yet, if I am afraid to offend with the truth which I will gently encourage you to ponder, perhaps our friendship is more like an aquaintance and not a friendship.
I believe there is truth in this quote, “Similarities create friendships while differences hold them together. I love my friends not just because sometimes we are similar in thought but because our differences are like a forge that creates the masterpiece of long-lasting relationships which survive the test of time and personal convictions. I celebrate our strength in our similarities as well as our differences.
Although I know the prejudicial literature I have read recently may not represent the general opinion of the people in my birthplace, as there are very many critical thinkers there too, unfortunately the critical thinkers have stayed the silent majority. Perhaps there is much for you to lose if you speak up. I can understand that. I do hope and pray that you find a wise way to speak the truth, even if your voice shakes before it is too late, before generations of racial harmony and mutual respect gets stomped beyond any shred of recognition.
Consistent with how I have led my life since I was young, thanks to leadership from my own parents, I now teach my own children to be “colour blind” when developing friendships. I am convinced there is eternal value in the work of bridge building among nations. I just wish there were more of us bridge builders out there. It gets tiring after a while if nobody joins you in the work. Every brick I put up, there seems to be more than 10 others out there eager to shoot the brick down.
The marvelous piece of writing below was produced by my 10-year old. She and her classmates were asked to first, listen to a story read by their teacher and then, re-write what they heard and understood of the story. The story was read four times and the name of the Sultan was simplified for spelling purposes for the kids. Please, don’t anybody get offended now.
I was amazed by the story when I first read my daughter’s work and I made it a teachable moment as we talked about honour, differences, and respect among peoples as well as the flipside, which was hatred, prejudice and ignorance.
I hope you enjoy my daughter’s retelling of a wonderful story of chivalry and nobility in one of the darkest times of human history where wrong was committed on both sides of the war.
The Noblest Knight
Eight hundred years back, an English knight called Sir Hugh de Tabardie fought in the Crusades against the Muslims. Unfortunately, he was thrown off his horse during the battle and was captured.
Soldiers had to pay a ransom of 100 bezants to be freed. Squires had to pay 500 bezants as a ransom. Knights, like Sir Hugh, had to pay one thousand bezants or more.
Back at the Muslims’ camp, the Sultan, Saladin*, told Sir Hugh his ransom. “You have fought well,” he said. “You must pay a ransom of 8,000 golden bezants.” “8,000 bezants?!” said Sir Hugh, “Were I to sell my horse, my castle and all of my lands, I couldn’t even reach half that amount!”
“Then you will remain prisoner here forever,” replied Saladin.
“Noble Saladin,” said Sir Hugh, “If you will allow me to go free for 30 days, I will try to raise 8,000 golden bezants.”
“And if you do not return?”
“You may do with me as you wish.”
Saladin’s commanders laughed long and hard at Sir Hugh’s suggestion. That Saladin would let a captured knight go free just by keeping his word? What an idea! But Saladin wasn’t laughing.
“Very well. However, if you fail to raise the money, I will put you to death!” he boomed.
Sir Hugh didn’t flinch. “I promise,” he said.
Sir Hugh got onto his horse and rode off to the Crusaders’ camp. The soldiers were astonished that Sir Hugh had returned. “Saladin granted me 30 days to raise 8,000 golden bezants,” Sir Hugh said. Some contributed to Sir Hugh’s ransom but most did not. It made no sense for a free knight to pay a ransom. Sir Hugh counted the money he had raised.
Thirty days passed. Sir Hugh had only raised 400 bezants. Sadly he returned to the Muslims’ camp.
“Have you brought me your ransom?” demanded Saladin.
“I have raised only four hundred bezants,” said Sir Hugh solemnly.
“And still you have returned, knowing that you were going to your death?” asked Saladin.
“I have kept my word,” said Sir Hugh.
“Then, surely it would dishonour us, to put a man that kept a promise made to an enemy, to death. Who here will contribute to Sir Hugh’s ransom?” Saladin then passed a brass bowl around and each commander dropped a handful of gold bezants into it.
When they were finished, Saladin counted out the money. “There are 10,000 bezants here. I will double it!” Saladin turned to Sir Hugh. “Your ransom has been paid many times over,” he said. “Sir Hugh, you may go free and here – take your ransom money with you. It is a gift from us.”
“But noble Saladin,” Sir Hugh said, “how can I accept this gift if I know that others still linger in captivity? Take back the 20,000 bezants and use them to free as many prisoners as you will allow,” said Sir Hugh.
Saladin replied, “I myself, will pay the prisoners’ ransoms. They are all free. Take them with you.”
As Sir Hugh traveled back to England, his story followed him. Years passed, and even when Sir Hugh was older, people would still point to him and say, “There goes Sir Hugh de Tabardie, the noblest knight that ever lived!”
But Sir Hugh would always reply, “Not so. The noblest knight was once my enemy. And if I were not Sir Hugh, I would gladly be Saladin, for he is the noblest knight of all.”
The END. (By Kiara L.)
*Sultan Salahah-Din was respected by Crusaders despite being their nemesis. His chivalry was noted by many Christian chroniclers.
Monday, December 27, 2010
Halal meat. I bought it, wouldn’t you?
Two days before Christmas, I went grocery shopping at a Muslim grocery store. I was there to buy some “halal” meat as I had invited some Malaysian friends to a Christmas lunch at my home. My friends were Muslims so it made perfect sense to me to cook halal meat. Halal foods are those processed in accordance with Islamic law.
At the meat counter, I smiled at the butcher as he came to ask for my order. As I stood there deciding how much meat to get, I asked him where he was from as he was somewhat fair-skinned and frankly, I was curious. He said he was from Afghanistan. How interesting. He then asked where I was from, to which I responded, “Malaysia”.
“Aahh… Malaysia. It’s a Muslim country, no?”
“Yes, it is,” I confirmed with a smile.
“And you are Muslim?”
“No, I am not,” with another big smile.
….. Pause…..the butcher raised his eyebrow….it was accompanied by a confused look.
“You’re not Muslim?” …and his unspoken, “So why are you here?”
“I’m Christian and I’m celebrating Christmas. My Muslim friends invited me for Eid Mubarak (end of Ramadan celebrations) and so I am inviting them back for Christmas. This is why I am here to buy halal meat for them.”
Still confused look…. And then a smile….followed by, “How much you want for your friends?”
We had a good exchange and he ended up cutting my 20lbs of chicken into all the pieces I required, thereby saving me a good hour of blood, sweat and tears. When my order was ready, the Afghan-born butcher wished me a good celebration and a Happy New Year with a big, friendly smile.
I know this is not exactly “world peace” but I am hopeful that I changed someone’s stereotype of a race and of a religion. I don’t need a 180° change. I simply need a 1° change. It's a start. It's better than nothing.
This was not at all difficult for me to do. I have Muslim friends coming over for a meal. I have access to a Muslim grocery store only 15 minutes away from home. I bought halal meat. Wouldn’t you?
"If you judge people, you have no time to love them."
- Mother Teresa
- Mother Teresa
Thursday, November 4, 2010
Light the Night...Part 2
The sun set over my beloved city in a warm glow of gold. The evening air is crisp. This is October, after all. The low hum of activity we heard when we first arrived an hour ago had now crescendoed to a full buzz of talking, laughing and sharing among thousands of participants, all in harmony with the current top 40 hits blaring from the stage, courtesy of my favourite radio station.
I am here at a fundraiser being held on an island, right in the middle of one of the most cosmopolitan cities in the world, Montreal. I am here because my daughter wanted to come. Her classmate was suddenly diagnosed with leukemia earlier this year. He is 10. The kids’ teachers from last year initiated a team to fundraise and walk in solidarity and support of a cure for young Matthew and others. So, here we are, at the Light the Night Walk for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society of Canada. Why “light the night”? This is a night-time 5km walk, held in the fall, in major cities all across Canada. The walk is illuminated by balloons that each participant carry, specially prepared with lights that twinkle and shine.
What an evening! In just over 2 weeks, the team put together by the teachers called, MJ’s Fans, had fundraised over $18,000 for leukemia research. We were told that not only was the team the fastest in raising so much money, it was also the biggest team walking that night, 59-members strong.
After a child-friendly meal of pizza, hotdogs, baby carrots, brownies and apples, and some fun at the inflatable play area as well as some face painting, we were welcomed by the organizers of the walk on an island that also hosts the Montreal Formula One Grand Prix. They introduced Montreal’s “Hero” for 2010 – a beautiful young lady called Alyssa. Her team, Alyssa’s Crew, had the tent right next to ours. I do not recall her speech apart from her introduction which went a little like this, “Hi everyone! My name is Alyssa and I’m a 19 year student at Concordia University. I have been in remission from leukemia for 8 years and it is thanks to you, all of you (she waved her hand across the entire park where we were gathered). Thank you for aiding in the process of finding a cure for something that affected me and still affect so many around the world”….
I seriously do not remember what else she said. The lump in my throat stuck for a few minutes. My sight became blurred with tears. My heart swelled with the absolute knowledge that my daughter and I were here, not just for a simple walk around the park. We were here to make a difference. Yes, the amount raised by just the two of us was relatively small but MJ’s Fans’ banner said, “Together we have the power to heal”….and I believe in the power of togetherness. And together, we brought the cure 18,000 small steps closer to a reality.
Back to the walk. The kids were animated with excitement. They carried their banner for Matthew with much gusto. Every time a cameraman stepped in front of them for a picture or video, out would come, “Cheese!” or “We love you Matthew!!!!” ....sweet....
We left our meeting place after a rousing send-off and very quickly it became obvious how special this night-time walk was. For much of the walk, the only light came from the thousands of illuminated balloons we carried. There were RED balloons for teams like ours, walking in SUPPORT of someone currently battling leukemia. There were WHITE balloons for walkers who were SURVIVORS of this disease. Last but not least, there were GOLD balloons, for people walking in MEMORY of loved ones lost.
Soon, we came to a 1-kilometre stretch where luminaries (little candle lanterns made from small paper bags) lined the entire walkway. Each one had a name on it. The volunteer at the beginning of this kilometer requested we walk silently. Immediately, the upbeat chatter abated to almost total silence in a show of respect. Even the children understood this serious and solemn stretch of walk. All you could hear was the quiet shuffle of footsteps.
Each luminary represented someone lost to the leukemia or lymphoma this year. Towards the end of this kilometer, I saw two people in a tight embrace and as I passed them, I heard them sobbing softly. It was my second, big reminder of the reason I was walking. We were walking to help fund research to find a cure for a disease that took away lives of loved ones.
As we continued walking, the buoyant, optimistic mood returned. The kids oohed and aahed at various lookout points where we could see Montreal at night. There was huffing and puffing the last kilometer as we began to recognize the way back to the meeting place. We could hear the band playing again. We crossed the finish line to thunderous applause as volunteers clapped and whooped and hollered to celebrate our success.
Wow … what an evening! My daughter learned so much in one night about caring enough to make a difference. Much more than a textbook read over a whole year could ever teach. The children and their enthusiasm to do this walk for their friend affirmed my belief that you can never be to young to make a difference. Those who think children are ineffective fundraisers due to their age are somewhat small-minded, I think, without vision. By the way, MJ’s Fans are now listed as one of the top 10 fundraising teams across Canada for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society.
Sometimes, we adults need to stop complaining and lamenting about everything that is wrong in this world. We need to just start doing something to make a difference. If we do not know how to do that, perhaps we need to look at our kids every now and then. It also helps to remember, no one can do everything, but everyone can do something.
Best line I heard that night….one of the teachers who organized the team said, “Next year, Matthew will lead the team as we walk. He will hold his WHITE balloon”….
I needed a Kleenex then....what about you?
I needed a Kleenex then....what about you?
PS - if you'd like to take the walk with us, click on the link to our digital scrapbook below. Enjoy. Be inspired.
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